Wax Play Facts
I have been teaching and demoing wax play for several years, and doing wax play for more for more years then I care to date myself with.
What I've found is there is loads of misinformation out there. I created this site to give you as much information as I can, letting you make informed decisions based facts. I've seen too many 'experts' say words like "beeswax" "florescent color" "food color". It makes me shiver to see all the misinformation out there.
I will be adding more wax play pictures either from my library or from others with permission of course. If you have a picture you'd like me to add, drop me an email I'd love to add it.
Myth: Wax play is only for the kinky, or BDSM players.
The truth is quite the opposite, although wax play is especially popular in BSM because it’s a pleasurable sensations, wax play is for anyone. Also, wax play is not just for bottoms - subs - slaves, why should they have all the fun and sensations?
Okay on with the facts.
Types of waxes
Waxes are often classified according to their origin as illustrated in Table below:
Naturally Occuring Waxes
Noting the Table above most people presumes that Paraffin wax is an un-natural wax, it falls in with mineral. Mineral is a natural resource.
Many say it's not possible to calculate melting point, not true. However, you cannot calculate to an exact degree, but it's done as an average and within that average you'll be able get a good idea what temperature you can expect.
Below is how I calculate each batch melting point, takes time but well worth it, it insures an enjoyable wax play scene.
1. Place 1/4 ounce of melted wax into a glass container (I use a baby food jar), weighing it to insure exact measurement. Make sure none of the wax is on the sides as this will alter the results.
2. With a rubber band, attach the container to a thermometer and align the bulb of the thermometer with the bottom.
3. Make a water bath with warm tap water.
4. Place the thermometer/container assembly in the water bath so that the surface level of the wax is beneath the surface level of the water bath.
5. Stirring frequently with wooden toothpick to insure even heating, carefully heat the water bath with your heat source.
6. Note the temperature at which the wax melts.
7. Repeat the procedure four more times and average the results.
8. If all 5 tests were similar in melting point then average them out and you've got the melting point, if any of the test was off more than
4 degrees you'll have to restart your test.
Selecting you wax for wax play.
Melting point, hardness, drip factor, and allergies all play a vital role in selection.
In weighing all the above factors above it really narrows down the wax considerable. If ignoring the last (allergy) then I would say soy or paraffin wax. Many are allergic to it soy, check with each play partner before bring soy to the table. I prefer using paraffin, so my play partners are not limited.
From here on out I will be speaking of paraffin wax as that’s the wax I work with and will be referring to.
Now we have to weigh the way the wax was processed, the impurities, the added chemicals etc.
Paraffin wax is processed differently for different purposes; first the impurities are removed to bring it to a nice translucent shade, so the more translucent your 'raw' wax is the more pure it is.
Next it's processed to either raise the melting point or lower it; again this is done by the manufactures.
Most wax play candle makers buy the lowest melting point wax available which is 125-135 degrees.
Some candle makers do not note the clarity of the wax, as for the most part isn't important as they are planning on placing them in a jar adding color, scent etc for 'aroma candles' they tend to have a creamy sticky texture these are usually the ones that can be found in the dollar store, as they can be made very cheaply and quickly, as you won't need to 'top off'.
Wax Play candle makers (those that I'm aware of) do start off with 125-133 degree translucent wax adding only color to make a great assortment of colors to select from. This wax is fine, as long as it's less than 140 degrees. Just a quick note if your playing with wax that’s near 140 degrees even though it is still safe to play with, it loses that warm feeling and enter into the hot feeling, great care not to burn someone or get burned is a must.
A very few wax play candle makers will take the translucent 125 degree wax and continue to process it, in order to lower the temperature, in doing so they can lower the temperature down to about 110 degrees. This is the ideal wax to select, as you cannot get lower temperatures without losing the substance that makes it wax, instead it will end up being more liquid and rubbery unable to hold its own form.
Flat Wicks: A flat plaited or knitted wick, usually made from 3 bunches of fiber are very consistent in their burning and curl in the flame for a self trimming effect.
Square Wicks: Braided or knitted wick also curl in the flame, but are more rounded and a bit more robust then flat wicks.
Cored Wicks: Braided or knitted wicks use a core material to keep the wick straight up while burning.
Material used in making the wick:
Ideal wick would be 100% cotton flat braid wick, or 100% square braid, as cotton doesn't drip and both braids does a self trimming thing to maintain the candle burn and is smokeless and very importantly won't drip onto your wax play subject.
There are more additives then even I could have imagined, below is a short list of what they are used for, I do not have the additive name as many manufactures put their own name on the chemical mixture and the list will be way to impossible without a webpage devoted just to this topic.
Enhance the beauty of the candle
Scents - Fragrances:
Makes a wonderful smelling candle (also clogs the wick causing it to 'spit' very hot spurts and can cause a major burn)
Color is an additive but will have to be addressed separately, as there are many different colors available as well, and they will have their own effect.
Have you ever heard the argument "color adds to the heat of the candle" "color doesn't add to the heat of the candle" Which one is true? BOTH!
Pigment dyes: Is used because it resists color bleeding. The down fall is that it does not dissolve ref, they color the wax by dispersion, being suspended in the wax and clogging the wick.
Florescent / Neon colors:
Contain metals to give them their appearance. "are sold for use in the making of candles and maybe hazardous if misused. Do not ingest, and avoid prolonged skin contact. Keep away from kids and pets" ref
Oil based blocks:
Being oil based is perfect, but being in solid form is because they add a hardener and will slightly alter the temperature of your candle depending on amount of color used, the darker/deeper the color the more it is altered.
Oil based liquid color:
Completely dissolves in your wax and doesn't alter the wax melting point. This is the only wax play choice I would recommend.
Food coloring: Simple answer, oil and water don’t mix.
Does it cool as it's dripped or poured
This is a huge debate, as we all have held up a candle and noticed its much cooler then when its closer to the body during wax play. Now the facts:
It boils down to the amount of wax being poured and the temperature of the air, wax and distance. Let's say you have a candle and you are dripping it on someone about 5 feet above them. Yes, those droplets will be much cooler. Now take a ladle of wax same distance same temp, no it will not alter the temperature from that distance. Make sure you use a candy thermometer and maintain proper temp.
I will often use my spare hand to act as a cooling barrier by placing it between the wax flow and the subject.
Crock pots for wax play
Many use a small pot over a hot plate to heat up their wax, some pots are able to maintain a specific temperature, however those pots are not only small, they are not able to melt the mass amounts most of us want. If you get a larger pot it will not maintain degrees below 140, raising your wax well above you're desired level. There are specs out there to alter the crock pot turning it to a wax play vat with exact temperature control.
Wax does not boil as water does and leaving it on a heat source will continue to raise the temperature no matter what the melting point is. Wax does not steam, or give off any outward sign that it's reaching its flash point, your only resource to keep it from doing so is to watch the thermometer and never leave it unattended. Wax flash points will vary from type of wax and its melting point. Regarding paraffin wax its standard melting point is between 390 - 480 degrees ref,now these standards are for wax 135 -185 melting point. I myself have experienced a flash point (meaning my wax burst into huge flames) at a little below 300.
Can something 'feel hotter than it actually is? And will it burn you even if it's not hot?'
The quick answer is yes. But this isn't about quick answers it's about fact based information. I noticed that when I played with some people they reacted much different than others at the same wax temperatures. During wax play I made some observations that being dehydrated or some medications will play a role in your skins reaction. I did some fast research to find out more. What I discovered there are several things that can cause you to be more sensitive and easily burned ref.
That is why each and every time you play you have to test the heat of the candle before you begin. That means not just top tested to insure low temp, but bottom tested to insure all is well.
Using Lotions / Oils etc
Many people use different substances to create a barrier between the bottom and the wax. There is nothing wrong with this and can create another sensation during wax play as well, only note here is pay close attention as to what you're using.
Lotions are mainly oil based and usually lower the melting, but they have other ingredients in them that can bother some sensitive skin.
Crisco: not knowing the facts on it I looked up its melting point wondering will it raise or lower the heat of your wax. According to Crisco it has a melting point of 117 - 119.
Cooking oils (Liquid): As a whole they are all excellent low melting point option
Mineral oil: Aka Baby oil, is another excellent low melting point option
Always read the ingredients of what plan on using as a base, check for allergies, and never use a base that is higher in temperature then the wax you're using.
So, there you have it. The facts, just the facts and nothing but the facts. I hope this article has been of some assistance to you in separating the facts from myths and aided you along your wicked wild ways into wax play.
This was written by Lady V - Erotic Sensations